psychic abilities Archives - Deb Sheppard

Ask Deb Anything- Your Questions Answered

I’ve been asked 1000’s of questions.  Not one is weird, strange or insignificant.  They all have meaning and I know there is desire to understand the unknown.  Humans are seekers and especially after a significant loss we have so many unanswered questions.  

I’m honored to provide my perspective and experiences from my journey so far.  It doesn’t mean it’s the only truth or the only answer.  I love providing my insight to anyone who is curious.

First question that is always asked.  “Are they okay?”

My answer is 100% YES.  I joke that there is no taxes or dieting, so it must be heaven but with humor aside, our loved ones do not take with them the pain and struggles they endured while experiencing life on earth.

Know that we are all living our human experience here and when we cross over we are not the same. We gain a new understanding. Their personalities will come through as you remember them, however if they were cruel or not a good person, that will have changed.  They may perhaps, apologize for their behavior. They don’t carry the anger and sadness that they experienced here on earth, but they remember and will talk to you about this experience.

I have said over the years, being a messenger is an honor and while my clients are grieving it would be difficult if those in the afterlife were grieving as well.  For me, it would take a lot of energy to manage.  Your loved ones whether you had a positive or negative relationship will provide insight into your relationship, but they do not carry the hardships they had before crossing over.

Many times, I find they are having a party with other loved ones whom they have met, including beloved pets and ancestors.  We are the ones missing them but they are still with us and are finding new experiences on the other side.

Are they with me all the time?

Well, I hope not!  Like those experiencing life on earth, we are not with our loved ones or our community 24/7.  That would actually make us a little nuts.  We need to have our alone time.  

Since we miss them, we have a desire to know they are around us.  Know that they certainly are with you and see what you are going through.  When I’m doing a session and the loved one talks about odd things such as plumbing issues, career changes and family concerns it’s because they are seeing what is going on in your life and they want you to know they support you.

They enjoy sharing about trips you have taken or are about to take, new babies and accomplishments.  Many times, they will discuss health concerns or someone in the family that has been difficult.

These explanations are evidence that they know and see what is happening in your family.  They are aware of your life, the ups and downs that we each live through.  Many times, they will visit me before your session.  They love making themselves known especially if they had a lot of personality.  

How do I know they are visiting me?

They visit you and show you signs. What stops this connection is our busy lives and our grief.   If we slow down and just be quiet and still we will notice them. This is what I desire for each of my clients who would like to connect with their loved ones.  The experiences are gentle most of the time.  Giving small indications that they are around.  It’s normally not a big “ahha” that must be my mom.  It’s more of a quiet awareness that is felt or heard. This is why so many that do feel their loved ones, feel as if they are making it up or just wanting it to be real.  I would suggest that most of the time when you are feeling your imagination at work, it’s truly is your loved one.

How I Connect with Your Loved One

When I connect with your loved one I must trust what I am receiving and I am 100% in the moment.  It comes from my right brain or creative side, I lose all analytical insight.  I take all of this information they share with me and interpret what spirit is saying to me.  It takes a lot of energy for your loved one to connect with the earthly realm, so I as a medium raise my energy to make the connection easier for them and I.

I am an empath and have the ability to use all 6 of my senses or all my Clairs. They “tap in” to all of my senses. I hear, see, smell, taste, feel and see a bit of a movie in my third eye to translate a message.  Over the years, I’ve built my own vocabulary that they use to show me things about them.  For example, if I see a newspaper unfolded it means to me this person was well read and they wanted to know what was going on in the world. A railroad or train either means they lived on a train or their name is Robert, Bob or James.

Sometimes, I will feel the pain of how they passed worthier illiness. Many times, I will cough if they passed from lung disease, hanging or a drowning.  Not always fun, but it’s their way of letting me know what happened to them. Taste is always interesting.  If they drank scotch, vodka or beer they may make me taste these things.  They may show me what their favorite food was or what they ate before they passed can be presented as well. If you snuck them pie or chocolate as a treat while they were ill, I get to taste it too.

This does become a little exhausting for me, and to manage this I have learned to turn it off when I’m not being a messenger.  I need earth time to feel grounded and be in my human suit.

Some of the Things They Can Do

These are just some of the ways a loved one can show they are with you.  They love messing with our electrical items, such as phones, computers and light bulbs.  Several times they have turned on my TV around 2 am to say, I’m here. 

These are just a few questions you may have and if you want to hear more you can connect with my latest podcast on Spirited Straight Talk where I talk about these things and more of your most wanted answers.

Namasté

Deb Sheppard

Listen To Your GPS-Guided Psychic System

Yes, you’re intuitive! You are born with your own GPS; Guided Psychic System. It’s up to you to use it. It wasn’t taken away from you, it is still there to use when you open yourself.

Being psychic doesn’t mean you get the lottery numbers or get to escape learning lessons here on the earthly plane. Intuition is your sixth sense, and everyone is born with this ability.

A Sense of “knowing”

Watch animals, they don’t attend parenting classes or question their senses. They feel fear when danger is near, and they have innate nurturing abilities. You will see an animal run if there is going to be an earthquake or a natural disaster. This is their intuition and they have complete trust in it.

Small children also have a sense of “knowing” and children have not had an array of life experiences to understand what is happening. However, we tell our children to do things that society deems acceptable instead of letting them trust their gut.

We turn off that sixth sense that is our birth right because we are taught these limiting beliefs through society, religion and family belief systems. How many times have you regretted that you didn’t listen to that little voice in your head?

What happens when you ignore your intuition?

Even as a psychic medium I still let the outside world influence me, but I keep trusting and I keep trying to listen to my intuition and heart.

A little bit about my story. The first time I got married, I thought “I could leave right now if I wanted too” as I was walking down the aisle. During the exchange of my vows I thought “I could still say no”.  I chose to stay and go through with it and what a surprise, the marriage lasted less than a year. For years, I had been upset with him and all that happened around the marriage and situation, until one day I realized it was not his fault, I did not listen to my inner voice. I ignored my intuition. Has something like this happened to you?

Trust and Surrender

Trust and Surrender are the two most important rules to understanding your intuition. Trust=listen to your inner voice, regardless of the fear that others may judge you or try to talk you out of your intuition. Surrender=do not try to control the outcome. Most of us want and desire love, abundance and a healthy life. We try to control what “we” believe will make us happy instead of letting the universe bring in wonderful things you never imagined would be possible. Get out of your own way.

Where do you begin?

Meditation maybe difficult for many but if you try to just be present so you can listen to your inner voice you will find it easier. Start by practicing using your intuition with thinking of small questions. Where should I go eat today that will help me with my energy? What line at the grocery store is good. Which is the best way to drive home so we are all safe? Who is the next person to call me on the phone?

Have you ever listened to that “voice” when you think of someone, then you reach out to them and they have some news to share with you? They may even tell you that they were thinking of you and were about to reach out. That’s a perfect example of your intuition.

KISS-Keep is Simple Sweetie (my saying for years now)

KISS; Keep it simple sweetie! When you are at the beginning stages of trying to use your intuition I highly recommend that you don’t try focusing with the big life choices such as a job change, selling a home or leaving a relationship. There will be too much attached to these life choices.

Begin practicing so you can receive new insights and tools to help you develop a more solid inner voice.

Do active meditation like color mandalas, cook your favorite dish while meditating or try automatic writing.

As you are practicing, write down any insight you feel and trust that this is from the universe.

Surrender and trust the process. You can do it!

Namasté

Deb Sheppard💜

Are You a Highly Sensitive Soul?

Are you a Highly Sensitive Soul?

I remember when I was a child, I was often teased for being too sensitive.  I could feel the emotions of others and felt my own very deeply.   Even as an adult, I have been teased or criticized for being too sensitive.  Well guess what, after realizing why I am so sensitive it all made sense.  I am an empath, I’m able to feel the energy of others, those that have crossed over and those still here on this planet.    

All of my senses become heightened when I’m doing readings.  I can feel, see, hear, taste and even smell things to interpret messages from beyond.  In addition, it is very easy for me to be in a room and have a feeling or sense everything around me.   I don’t even need to be in the same room as someone to sense and know things.  I have clients all over the world, and I can describe things with great detail during a session.  

To feel all these things can be exhausting, so over the years I have learned how to “turn off”
 receiving all of this energy when I’m not working.   I know that by not feeling everything every moment of every day helps me tremendously to have a “normal” life.  I want to be with friends and family without feeling every emotion.  I also feel that their emotions are not mine to feel and to do this with people around me without their permission crosses a boundary. 

I have worked with so many people that I would call Highly Sensitive Souls or Empaths.  We can feel a lot of emotions and don’t know how to control it or to not take everyone else’s emotions in.  Sometimes as a Highly Sensitive Soul we can confuse other’s emotions for our own.  This can sometimes cause anxiety, depression, isolation, the feeling of being different and sometimes it can create the inability to function in everyday life.

I want you to know without a doubt that you can find ways to manage your sensitivity.  It will take practice, but I know it is possible.

 When I realized my abilities as psychic and a medium, I felt overwhelmed with all the energy that surrounded me.  I reached out to a dear friend who had been psychic most of her life and was in her early 70’s when we had this discussion.  I explained that I was having trouble with all the energy and the other side constantly talking to me.  She simply asked me when my appointment was the next day then she said, “tell them to leave you alone until then.”   I thought to myself, okay I’m willing to try this.  I was going crazy with this bombarding me all the time.  

To my surprise when I spoke to them, my head and body didn’t feel anyone around. It got very quiet all of the sudden as if it just shut off.  I actually got a bit frightened and wondered if I did something to turn off my abilities.  So very nervous about this appointment, I sat down and asked the loved ones to come through, and the flow of their energy came right back.  They showed right back up for the session.   At that moment I realized I could control how much I felt, and my ability to connect with the other side.  I didn’t need to be at this heightened sensitivity every moment of my life.

Even though that moment showed me it could be an easy process, I have still worked on creating boundaries and taking steps to care for myself consistently.  

What I have found in my work is that young people really struggle if they are a Highly Sensitive Person. Unfortunately, being a sensitive may bring judgment by those that don’t understand how we are wired, which can cause for more pain for the empathic individual. 

I believe there are ways to understand and manage this and you may have to try a few different things before finding the right combination for you.  I also recommend you pay attention to what you are doing and how you feel when you are less invaded by energy.

Finding quiet time often is important to Highly Sensitive People.  Being out in nature will help ground you.   Eat a healthy diet and drink lots of water.   These seem like very simple things but when life is busy, these things are forgotten. 

Make sure you have plenty of sleep to recover from the psychic vampires during the day that zap your energy. I have found a cooler temperature and an organized room allow your mind to relax.   Essential oils for example Lavender or Sandalwood can help support a good night’s sleep.   Sleepy time teas like chamomile or simply having a routine for your body to know its bedtime will help as well.   Epsom salt baths along with the use of oils can help the body to relax for bed.   A quick meditation with the focus that all the energy is washing away can quiet your mind and energy.  

Do you have a pet?  Pets can show you unconditional love and support you with healing positive energy.  

Empaths or sensitive people have a huge tendency to attract projects instead of partners.  I see this all the time, because a sensitive individual will feel the pain of the other person and try to help them.  This is a big no no! Create that boundary for yourself. 

I’m not saying you can’t help others, but how many of these individuals are in your life.   If you want to help others, then as an empath you must find a good balance.  Find those that support you and help feed your soul. 

Exercise is also a great tool to use to move the energy that you may absorbed.  Simple idea and one you have probably already considered but it can be helpful. 

One of my favorite ways to release energy is laughter.  Watch comedy often, this is one of my go to’s.   Mala beads can be very helpful.  You can practice a calming Mantra and choose stones that support your healing.  You can wear them to help create an energy balance.  I created my line of Malas to help support people in many ways and this is exactly the reason why. 

One of the things I have taught in the past to change a pattern, I have encouraged people to wear a thick rubber band on their wrist.  Every time you take on someone’s energy or cross boundaries when you are not invited, snap the rubber band.  After enough times of snapping the rubber band, you will see your patterns so you can begin to change how you respond to the energy of others.

Pay attention to the cycles of the moon, weather and what is going on in the world.  You can be triggered by many of these things, and you many not even realize where the energy is coming from.  For Highly Sensitive People, hearing about negative pieces of the news can be very difficult, so I’m not encouraging you to listen to news every day, but things happening in the world can affect the way you feel.  For example, you may have heard stories of animals knowing days before an earthquake will hit or a disaster of some kind is coming. They feel it, you may experience this type of energy also and it may overwhelm you. 

If you are close to someone that is having a difficult time, you may be one that takes on their problems without even realizing it.  It is very important to find the difference between being there for them and taking on their energy.  Your soul does not want you to absorb everything around you.  

Feeling energy is a good thing, being a Highly Sensitive Person is a good thing.   Learning to manage it is the key to feel successful.  

If you have any ideas or things that have worked for you, share it with us.  I will choose one of you to receive a set of Forever Connected Oracle cards.  This tool can help you communicate with your loved ones on the other side.  

 Namasté,

Deb  

Is Your House Haunted? Of Course it is!

Is your house haunted?

Of course, it is!

Often, I am asked “where do my loved one’s hangout?  Are they with me?”  

Do you sometimes feel someone is behind you, do you find your things moved or are your electronics doing things without any one touching them? Have you seen something out of the corner of your eye such as a dark streak and when you try to focus on it, it’s no longer is in sight?

They can be anywhere and everywhere!  Who you ask?  Those no longer living in a human suit!  I believe they are just in a different dimension, which I can’t explain scientifically, but this is how I describe my experiences.  

If you are feeling the spirits in your home or office, or anywhere, it doesn’t have to be someone you knew.  I will be asked “Who has been turning on my TV at night” or “who is closing doors and turning on the lights? “I believe that it doesn’t have to be your loved one or someone you know.  

I have done thousands of sessions and I connect to your loved ones which are not people I would personally know. They show up sometimes days before a session and they like to show signs in my home to advertise they are around waiting for the appointment.  It can be quite interesting.  I have experienced so many electronic things happening and once even had an entire shelf of vases thrown out in the middle of the night.  A loved one was announcing themselves prior to a reading the next day. 

Sometimes people like to think that a haunted space may be occupied by someone who may be “stuck” but that is not my belief and that’s not generally my experience.  I think people in human suits can be more “stuck” than those who have crossed over! They like to be around to see what is happening in our lives and maybe they want to hangout since they are getting attention from us.  

I think energies can present themselves to us and we will feel them, our hair may stand up.  We will feel other energy too. Think of how you may feel at the ocean, mountains or in a vacant old building.  Each of these different spaces provides a different reaction.  Since everything is energy, it can take a shape that can makes us each feel the energy and we will interpret it differently.  

I’ve have done energy clearings at homes, business clearings and land clearings.   The owners have called and said they felt something was wrong or someone needed to move on to the other side.  My belief is we can attract energy or energies into our spaces by accident.  It’s not that someone is trying to hurt you, attach to your body or some other notion. What I have found is we may open up to something that is mirroring what is happening in our own lives.  Similar to the law of attraction.

A few years ago, I had a client contact me because their house was on the market for over a year with no offers or interest.  The price range in this neighborhood was expensive so taking a longer period of time to sell wasn’t unusual, but this home was not getting any feedback whatsoever.  The home was well designed, beautifully laid out with great views, so why was there no action on it?  

The homeowner was already living in their new home a few blocks away, but they were trying to sell this home and move on in their lives.  They hired me to come and help them change the energy in the home to see if it would help. When I arrived at the home with a few students we all walked in and felt a heaviness.  The homeowner didn’t feel it as this was what she felt the entire time living in the home.  To her it was normal.

As we walked around, we could feel that there a lot of illness.  She confirmed this and shared that her daughter had a botched surgery which led to many more to correct the first one.  Her sister had a brain tumor and had lived there while the homeowner had taken care of her and the owner herself had fallen down a flight of stairs and almost broke her back.

We all took a big breath!  It made perfect sense after hearing what had taken place in the home. The heaviness was from how they felt in the home.  We used some of my techniques to help move the energy and relieve the heaviness we felt in the home.  Some great ways to change the energy yourself.  

  • Have a party in your house or a celebration
  • Take a hot bath with your significant other
  • Celebrate the home so it feels loved
  • Bring joy and talk about happy experiences in the home
  • Bless your home with sage
  • Play great happy music
  • Get rid of things in your home that you don’t love or bring you joy
  • Bring in plants and flowers
  • Open up windows
  • Sit in a room you normally don’t sit in and honor that room

These are just some easy suggestion to create an intention of clearing energy.  Everything come down to intention and if your intention is to bring positive energy you can do it.

For this particular client, she followed some of my suggestions and a week later I received a call that the buyers who had looked at the house a year before came back and bought the home!  Isn’t that amazing?  

If you are open to feeling the energy and you want to feel your loved ones more often then, welcome them and try to feel the little sign’s they are trying to give you.  It can be very subtle. They will show signs by showing up as orbs in your pictures, or by messing with your electronics and having coins appear to you. They may move objects, or it may just be that subtle feeling we get when we are quiet.  

As I’ve always said, we are “Forever Connected”. Even though they are on the other side they are forever by our side.

Deb Sheppard

Your Intuition Is Important-Don’t Ignore It.

After almost two decades I’ve had the opportunity to help thousands of individuals open up to their psychic abilities.  Being psychic doesn’t mean you get the lottery numbers or get to escape learning lessons here on the earthly plane. Intuition is your sixth sense, and everyone is born with this ability.

The best way I have found to understand this concept is to watch animals.  Animals don’t attend parenting classes or question their senses.   They feel fear when danger is near, and they have innate nurturing abilities.  You will see an animal run if there is going to be an earthquake or a natural disaster.  This is their intuition and they trust it.  Small children also have a “sense of knowing” and children have not had an array of life experiences to understand what is happening.  However, we tell our children to do things that society deems acceptable instead of letting them trust their gut.

While trying to follow guidelines that society creates, which can include a person’s religious beliefs, we turn off that sixth sense that is our birth right.  How many times have you regretted that you didn’t listen to that little voice in your head?

Even as a psychic medium I still let the outside world influence me, but I keep trusting and I keep trying to listen to my intuition and heart.

The first time I got married, I thought “I could leave right now if I wanted too” as I was walking down the aisle.  During the exchange of my vows I thought “I could still say no”, but of course I didn’t.  What a surprise, the marriage lasted less than a year.  For years, I had been upset with him and all that happened around the marriage and situation, until one day I took accountability because I did not listen to my inner voice.  Has something like this happened to you?

Intuition comes with a couple of things, trust and surrender.  Not an easy thing for most of us to do.  Trusting that inner voice, means that you do not ignore it because others may judge you or try to talk you out of something.  It is your journey, trust your intuition.

Surrender, means you do not try to control the outcome.  Most of us want and desire love, abundance and a healthy life.  But, we try to control what “we” believe will make us happy instead of letting the universe bring in wonderful things you never imagined would be possible.

I had no plan of ever becoming a medium until I surrendered to it.   I never imagined this would be my work.  Getting out of your own way is a big step and trusting that you will be okay is essential.  When I chose to use and perfect my medium abilities I knew there would always be judgment and knew I would probably would lose friends and family, which I did.

Before becoming a medium, my life was not going well, and I was trying to control what I believe was the best outcome for our family.  Well, I was wrong and it took me a while to accept this new way of thinking.

Meditation maybe difficult for many.  It’s about being present, so you can listen to that inner voice.  Start by practicing with thinking of small questions.  When people start on this path they don’t start with simple things, such as where should I go eat today that will help me with my energy?  What line at the grocery store is good or which is the best way to drive home so we are all safe?

Have you ever listened to that “voice” when you think of someone, then you reach out to them and they tell you that something good just happened or they were having a difficult time?  They may even tell you that they were thinking of you and were about to reach out.  That’s your intuition.

KISS; Keep it simple sweetie is what I teach.  When you are at the beginning stages of trying to use your intuition I highly recommend that you don’t try focusing with the big life choices such as a job change, selling a home or leaving a relationship.  There will be too much attached to these life choices.

There are lots of oracle cards that you can purchase to begin practicing.  Try this on yourself and maybe a few friends with their permission.  This gives you new insights and tools to help you develop a more solid inner voice.

Go be in nature, take a hot bath, listen to good music, color mandalas, cook your favorite dish, laugher and even dancing can help you release what you are worried about so that inner voice can jump in to help.  Write down any insight you feel and trust that this is from universe.  If you begin to question everything you receive or if you choose to share with others and they are judgmental of you then go back to what you wrote and see how it feels without the negative voices.

You are born with your own GPS; Guided Psychic System.  It’s up to you to use it.  It wasn’t taken away from you, it is still there to use when you open yourself.

Surrender and trust the process.

You can do it!

Deb Sheppard