Do you ever wonder why you keep struggling with the same patterns or attracting the same kinds of people or situations? Deb talks about life purpose and soul contracts?

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Welcome

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Two spirited straight talk, the ultimate podcast for anyone who is ready to live a life with intention and help from spirit. I am your host of shepherd, spiritual teacher meeting and author. I also love the outdoors. I love her for babies. I'm a wine enthusiast for sure. And a mom to three kids and two wonderful grandchildren. I also love to demystify the spirit world and help you think outside of the box, helping you open up to the whole enchilada or like, we like to say the soul in gelato, so you can truly make your soul rise. So let's go.

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Have you ever wondered,

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What is your life purpose? Like what are you here to do? It's something bigger than who you are is you're a part of a community that you belong. And then you're wondering where that is and who is your soulmate? Reen? I mean, having a soulmate, we are looking for those individual or individual that we connect with at so many different levels. And when I started on this journey, I started really asking a lot of questions as, as you know, I was raised very differently than where I am today and I've learned a lot. And when I first started being a spiritual individual and studying this, I started doing a lot of automatic writing.

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And for those that are not familiar with that, you just basically put pen to paper and you just let it flow. And you don't pick up the pen and you don't, you're really channeling. You're really telling your guides. Yeah. You're just writing whatever. The first thing that comes to your mind, you're writing, right? When you don't punctuate, which is fine with me because I don't like to do that anyway. So it makes it easier. And over a period of time, I started realizing these are what's called sacred contracts or souls contracts, as I like to call them about what we are here to do. And what is our major purpose and primary purpose. And it's all has to do with past lives.

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It concludes past I've absolutely. A lot of times people want to know, like, why am I doing this? Or why is this happening? And move we go into what's called Akashic records. We're able to download information that we, Oh, sorry. I just was, I just was letting people that we doesn't mean we is me and my guys. Yeah. And I just get used to whoever shows up and gives me the information. So it's a lot of trust, but through this, I was able to really help people understand what they came this planet for. And a lot of times we think it's our job, but it's really not.

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And so, well, I like to explain more of that, but really bottom line is we're here for full enlightenment and that does take awhile. Jane and I have kind of a similar belief of what we feel enlightenment is. So I'm gonna have her kind of explain it because she does it very well. Well, I had a good

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Teacher.

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So through all of our conversations and things that I've learned through all the classes that I've done with you sitting in the back of the room, playing music and following along with the teachings too, I know that what you've taught is that we came here to earth to become enlightened. And that is our, that's our purpose. So we made these choices and created opportunities for growth. And we chose our path prior to our birth, our birth, right. To achieve enlightenment. That's what you taught me. And so in all of our, like sitting down and really figuring out your, your classes and real clarity and for clarity, right?

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And for the workbooks that you go through, I think one of the definitions of enlightenment that we really liked was Buddha's definition of enlightenment. So I'm going to read it.

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Okay.

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Definition of enlightenment is by fully knowing what should be known to abandon what should be abandoned and to develop what should be developed. We can create the extinction of suffering India and now. And so that is our enlightenment that we come here in essence, to learn these lessons, to create opportunities for ourself, for growth. And, you know, I like to, you know, meet, kiss, keep it simple, sweetie. I like to teach it with a very basic kind of foundation and platform. And the reason for that is the more you go into it, the deeper you can get. And I really think that to grasp this understanding of it is just to kind of take those layers of why we're here and what people have been in our life and what stories we have experienced.

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I truly believe too, as well. If you don't believe in reincarnation, I believe that you can have multiple lifetimes in a lifetime. Many of us have seen that like over a period of maybe five to 15 years usually see about 10 where we really change our lives. We may have different people in our life. We have different careers, marriages, different marriages, friends. And so each of those give us another opportunity for growth. And we can look back on those experiences and say, I remember when a, B and C and D happened to me and you can see those patterns in your life. And I love to bring the pattern so that people are familiar with the words so that like, we start talking, when you learn these things, you can say the word boundary or the word value, and you completely understand what someone's going through.

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I especially worked with a lot of healers, which is a lot of boundaries because healers have a tendency to want to really rescue people. That's not fixed. They're fixed things. Yeah. So just imagine that we're all in a classroom and we have teachers and other students and we're learning from them. And the more I was believed that the more challenges you've had in this lifetime is because you're really getting your PhD basically. And you know, I've seen friends and family that they have not really experienced some real tragedy, which I'm glad that they haven't, but sometimes there may be, they may be just, you know, entering a fifth grade or whatever. So their level of consciousness is different and it's not a judgment.

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It's just how many times your soul's chosen an easier path to learn. So well, I chose it. I think I'll take mine over yours, but we all have these challenges. And so what happens is that people think that they're doing it wrong and what this class provides or this understanding teaching provides is you're not doing it wrong and how to understand these people. And we learned about archetypes. So we all have different personalities that we bring into this planet, as well as those that are teachers. I want to, I'm wondering part of the sell contracts is you talk about soul groups, right? So people always want to know who, who is in your soul group and who are your soulmates.

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And I know this, this is kind of an overview on the podcast. Cause you do a very in-depth class on this. So you just want to give people kind of a taste of what soul contracts is, but who's, who's in your soul group. Well, people are always surprised when I'm, how does it work? So in what I teach, I believe that we have what's called soul groups and that could be 50 to a couple thousand people or whatever. And each of those soul groups were together over lifetime. That soul group become enlightened. So one lifetime, you may be their teacher in a previous life. And in this lifetime, they're your teacher and these can be positive and negative teachers.

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Most of them, you want to understand whether your negative teachers are really here to help you become enlightened. Those are those tough ones. And we, we kind of think that we're here to teach them and it's reversed when it's not. Because how many times have you had someone in your life that you keep trying to get them to get it? And then they don't is because they were designed to be your teacher, which means we learned from either pain or from positive pleasure. Yeah. We learned from pleasure or negativity. Most of us don't make changes unless it's negative. You know, you start not you're in pain. So let's say you can't put in the outfit anymore. You are going to exercise and watch what you eat.

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Right. Because it's uncomfortable. So when you've had to be abandonment or judgment or things like that, that's happened in your life. Those are the things that we start to look at because it's, and it changes. But it seems like along the way, thank goodness we have those other soulmates that kind of show up and go, I'm here to support you. You've got this. And that creates that balance. And how do we seek that kind of understanding as well? So our, so group we choose could be our parents or siblings or teachers or neighbors or girlfriends or boyfriends, our coworkers or bosses, just about anyone that you've had an experience with your kids can be great teachers. And it's learning what I was called, the archetype of not prostituting yourself to get their approval.

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And I think a lot of us think that if we have someone's approval, that means we're doing it right. And in the soul group, understanding that's not what really we're supposed to be doing. We're supposed to be more transparent and authentic and learning to realize that someone doesn't love us the way we are, that's teaching us to still be transparent and authentic, but move forward with maybe a group of individuals that do accept you just the way you are. And we really agreed. You agreed to do this, so agree to do this. So what I usually have people to do, and it's called the pre-birth is looking at everyone in your life that has caused you positive experience as well as negative experience.

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And what you've essentially see is a pattern in these things. And that's what you're looking for is that pattern. You've got something to say. I can tell. Well, I was just, I was just kind of going back to these agreements that we made. So we actually sit down with on the other side, but our sole means we create a plan for earth college. Yeah. Earth college. And it's one of those things that I was raised with a lot of judgment in my life and still have judgment in my life.

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So it is a contract that I designed to understand that judgment will be part of my life and how not to have that, create my value and worth how I make decisions based on what makes me happy versus making other people happy. And from childhood, until even recently, there's been judgment in my life. And it is, it does sting. It does hurt. But what you come to find out is where's your truth. And are these people teaching you? And what are you learning from them? Because for enlightenment means those things don't bother you. I'm not there yet, obviously, but it's been that awareness that it's going to happen.

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And with judgment for many times comes abandonment. And so both of those can be really raw. And we start to give them to a belief system that we're not doing it right. Or we need to please other people or, you know, what's wrong with me and that's not the case. So what happens throughout life then is everything that happens in your life. Part of a spiritual contract, like every single thing, I don't believe every single thing like when someone crosses over and they're young or there's an accident, or they have cancer. I don't think that is all designed. I think we're humans, we're vulnerable things happen.

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So I don't believe that every single thing that happens was divine and we have free will here. We can choose not to follow what our soul's contract was as well as people will, may get mental health. They may get other issues that come up that intellect problems. Thank you. That might affect how your relationship is with them. So basically what we're talking about right now is just the surface sort of contracts about what we're learning and what that learning means for enlightenment. But I think there's always free will. So is your S your soul family, always your birth family?

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Yes, I think so, but I think that they can be very limited part of that life. You know, I think that sometimes those birth family members come in for just a moment and then others are with us throughout the whole journey. So it doesn't mean that they have to be there throughout your entire process. Okay. So how do you talking about soulmates again? Because I know I'm sure people are curious, like how do you know who a soulmate is? And again, there's defined give your soulmate as your teacher, which means most likely they're going to teach you pain. That's a great way to kind of look at it because we think sometimes who's my soulmate. I want to meet my soulmate.

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Well, your soulmates, first of all, in those souls contractor, sacred contracts is 100% of the people that challenge you. And we have to learn a lot from those individuals, but then again, we have those other soulmates, like you coming into my life and you became the soulmate. I mean, you and I are so aligned, but with that came abandonment and judgment. So even though I found an alignment with Dana, it's the judgment of same-sex relationships. The fact that we also have a black son and he adopted a child and we have all these other things and I'm a medium. And so what people do is we're still going to have the judgment abandonment, even though I met a wonderful soulmate that supports me a hundred percent.

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So again, we don't get out of these lessons that's right. Because we have had a lot of abandonment and judgment in our lives. I mean, even in just this last few years, some recently that we didn't even know about it's like data is going, what lesson is this one? You know, it's really that they're the same, but it's different individuals or different circumstances that show up. And sometimes it takes us back a little bit to figure it out because as a human we're emotional, we're touched by it. Yeah. I think we should talk about karma.

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Yeah. So people ask a lot about karma and

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Truly a big believer in karma, which sometimes I do wish karma on people. I'm wishing some karma,

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But not in a bad way. So

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My opinion is similar to people wanting bad things to happen to people that have done bad things. So that's sort of, to me, a belief system, like maybe a Christian and there's nothing wrong Christianity, but believe that there's heaven or hell like you're, you know, you're going to pay you to do. And I struggled also, I know there's negative and positive with karma, but it's, it's the negativity that concerns me. But I do believe in Dharma. And if you're unfamiliar with Dharma, Dharma is an exchange of energy through lifetimes for your lesson. So in this lifetime, I have these great teachers that are teaching me and they're doing it out of love because that agreement came or like preplan.

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I agree that I want you to be judgmental. I want you to abandon me. I want you to do all these kinds of things. And that Dharma means that I did that for them in a previous lifetime. I wanted them to. So I learned, and that group comes together for that whole group to become enlightened. That soul group can also work with other soul groups, but that's your primary group. And so the Dharma is more, a love, vibration, love, vibration. Like I'm here for you. Like you were here for me before.

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And so, as we get hurt, we have to say, thank you for that. Thank you very much. And you know,

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And experiences, we get to be angry. We get to be sad. We get to, you know, ignore it, whatever those things are, but it doesn't go away. We'll come back again. And so it's learning that we don't want bad things to happen to people that are here to be our teachers, even though we really do

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Well. Not really.

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Yeah. I agree. I mean, when, when you think about past things that have happened in your life, or maybe people that are no longer in your life that that hurts you, right? Some people do feel or wish karma would come around and so to speak vitamin the ass. But really the Dharma belief system is more of a vibration of love. You, you came here to teach me this lesson and I'm learning this lesson. So thank you. And next lifetime

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I'll teach you that

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With using the word karma. It's just that I think that people use karma as well. If they've been mean to me, shouldn't something happen to them, right? And I like to reverse that and understand and have more clarity about you signed up to learn this and it may hurt. And again, I've always said, you don't have to learn these lessons. You can choose to ignore them. You can choose to walk away. You can choose to change who you are. You can choose to be that person that's that people pleaser to get approval and not take the lesson on. So there's nothing, there's no failure. It's just, what do you want to do? And how much you want to do it. And how many times do you want to come back to learn the lessons? I guess, too, as you, if you believe in that.

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Yeah. And like you said, I think the important thing is whether you believe in one lifetime or multiple lifetimes, always in every single class, when you teach this, always see the patterns. Absolutely. And everyone is able to pick out the pattern that they've repeated over and over and over again, whether it's it and it's multiple people throughout their life or multiple situations. It's the same pattern that keeps getting repeated. It's hard not to. Yeah. It's hard not to. When you start to wrap your head around it, it's like, Oh yeah, I can see that. That's, that's what I'm here to learn because it keeps repeating over and over again.

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And people get frustrated. Like why did I sign up for this? And usually in my belief system is because you really wanted to learn some of some intense things and you'll have this equipment or tools. And what we provide in this teaching is the tools that you can use to kind of move through some of these challenges that we get them to our lives. And that's what really helps is like, when you can say this, or you can do this and they go, Oh, it's usually, you know me, I teach it with simplicity. It's very simple. It's just remembering to do it. And the practice to keep doing those things when you're confronted with it. So kind of breaking this down, I guess you said that your soulmates are, are, yeah.

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You're, you're soulmates are teachers. So mates are not here to get it. You think you're teaching them, you are saying, here's what I know. And now I just need you to get it. And they're saying, absolutely not. You're trying to change them. And they're not here to change. It would be like taking a college course. And the professor telling the professor what to do, and that's not going to go over well. So they really were designed in this lifetime to not change or get what you think, because if they get it and they change, they're not teaching you anymore. You just, all of a sudden go, well, I got them to get it and you're supposed to get it right.

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That's a really hard concept. People really have to put their, like you said, there, their head around this topic, because rethink, if we change them, there'll be happier or there'll be this, or there'll be that. Well, that's crossing boundaries. It's a lot of energy. You're expending to change someone and they're not broken. They, they honored you by saying, I'll be, I'll be this difficult soul in your life. I'll be happy to go in here and be challenging and not accept you and always pushing your buttons. And it's up to you, whether you still want to be in that classroom or do you want to move forward? Because you don't get out of the, you don't get out of the lesson. You'll just have another teacher from another perspective or it gets deeper or you get, you know, like right now, I think we're getting our PhD data.

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So you keep thinking the world, the world is actually, that's true. The world right now is getting their doctrine and understanding our planet and how we, it seems like all the narcissists are coming out of the woodworks too. Right? And those narcissists are not going to change. They are your teachers. And you know, they can't change. So it's not accepting who they are, is accepting that they came here to help you learn and become a better soul, a better spirit. And if you can step back at times and realize that it's okay, you're not doing it wrong. You, you there's no wrong or right way to do it. It's just, you're here to figure it out.

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So what do you think happens like as a soul evolves through many, many lifetimes, what happens to that soul? Does anyone ever achieve enlightenment? Is it just the endless journey? Like, is it, is that who becomes your guides because they're higher evolved souls? Like how does that work? I have no idea. No, I'm just joking. You know, I do believe that our guides are not our loved ones. I think your loved ones can come to you and give you some aha moments. But your guides are the ones that have gone through lifetimes of learning and enlightenment. And they're not there to judge. They're there to support you unconditionally.

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That's our goal. Isn't to help others find that. So it's almost like having a tutor, you know, your guides or your tutors to help you, like I'm here, but I'm not here to give you the answer, but I'm here to help you find the answer. Right. So abandonment and judgment, constant themes for us. My life, since I was a year old, when my mom abandoned me, she left first time. Well, she grabbed him more than once, but yeah, well, yeah. Okay. Twice. But the second time, actually the second time I chose to walk away. Right. And just said, I don't, I'm not going to give this energy. But yeah, she left when I was a year and then some really bad things happened throughout my life, you know, with, I guess, abandonment on every level.

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But also I guess judgment judgment would have been the big one and value for me value for sure. But, you know, being a six year old and when horror, horrific, physical, mental abuse started, you know, you have to wander. And that really is the only thing that ever made sense for me is that for some reason, I was supposed to learn something in this lifetime. As I, as I got to be older and started to put my foot down and say, I'm not going to be treated this way. But as a six year old, you're like, what the heck? You know? And Dana will be telling her story.

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I mean, I can share a little bit, this, this definitely plays into to soul contracts. And I always think, you know, what else, what else would the purpose be? Unless I was here to learn lessons that would help me and then help others in some way, shape or form, otherwise there's no purpose to it. All right. And so it always helped me to know that there was a higher purpose for what I endured. Right. And a lot of times I'm going to go back to this, but I just want to get clarity. I never believed, I believe that your job is your life purpose.

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If you were a stay at home mom, or if you're an engineer or you're a doctor, or you're a male person, whenever these just bring in the teachers for you. So throughout my life, I, my, my careers that I've taken had a lot of judgment on them. And so that didn't go away. Now I'm in a field where metaphysical field and I'm judged again. So I want people to remember that what you do for a living or not do for a living is not about your purpose, but it will integrate what you're doing, these things to your life or your life or your life purpose. How much do you want to share about your story? The short a little bit. Yeah, I can, I can share a little bit.

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I was taking well, first of all, my parents were 16 when they had me. So they were way too young. This was back in early seventies, so free love. And you know, I guess that was part of that hippie stuff going on at the time. I know it still happens now, but this is just the way the story was told to me. They had me, they were very young and my dad of course, started ignoring my mom. After I was born. My paternal grandparents had my parents live with them. And me, you know, brought me into their home.

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And my mom chose to leave because she was being ignored by her, by my father. And she left and had to marry my dad's cousin, which is another weird twist. But, but she left and I was a year old and my grandparents would not let her take me on the road hitchhiking down to thank goodness wherever they were going. Yeah. So the courts ended up giving them custody of me. And at the age of four, there was a clause where my father could take me if he was stable and wanted me, he promised he wouldn't, but his new wife decided she wanted me to.

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So she could straighten me out because I was too spoiled at four at four. So they decided to take me away from my grandparents who were my mom and dad. My father was not present. So grandma was mommy then. And grapple was basically my, my father in the course of everything. I ended up being horribly, physically abused, mentally abused. I've been writing a lot about it. So a lot more has been coming up, but I was locked in, in my room at the age of 11. They started locking me in my room basement. I was not fed. I stopped growing at the age of 11.

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So they did a bone scan after I escaped, you know, multitudes of other things. But that's a little snippet of it. I finally got away by climbing out of my window for the third time, determined not to go back at 15. I had to turn, I was determined not to go back, even if I had to sleep on the streets. And I found some people that helped me over the course of two weeks, I got in touch with my grandparents. And somehow my family might, my aunt who was my godmother and her husband, my uncle Bob. They convinced my parents not to take me back and whatever they did, they were miracle workers because whatever they did, my parents, my stepmother and father allowed me to live the rest of my teenage years with my aunt Sharon.

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And, and, and so they were lifesavers for me. I don't know what miracles they had to pull off because it w they, I knew if I went back, I w I would, well, they almost killed you a few times. Oh yeah. You're close to death. Several times being kicked with steel-toe boots by your mother choked. And there was a point where I suicide was a very viable option as my way out, and I chose not to do it. And so after getting out of that situation and that reflecting for the next, you know, 15, I'm almost 50 now.

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So, you know, reflecting for the next 35 years, it comes together in a way of making choices. And these things didn't just happen to me. You know, there, there was found purpose from them. Yeah. And Dana has a great way of explaining forgiveness because part of our lessons are forgiveness and with, for enlightenment, for alignment. And what I love is when Dana starts sharing her belief systems regarding forgiveness, it really helps release a lot of pain for people that feel like they're doing it wrong. If they don't forget, forgive the person that hurt them, the perpetrator would no matter what their, who they are.

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And so do you want to explain that? Because I think people really felt like there was a relief and that they could learn how to forgive without the traditional ideas that we all believe. Yeah. Yeah. I guess that's a good way to put it. My, my viewpoint on forgiveness is not traditional. I do. Why I believe that forgiveness is in some ways a loaded word, but I also believe you don't have to carry anger with you. And I don't, I don't carry the anger, but I also don't feel like I really have to absolve somebody or tell them I forgive them because that's more for them that's to absolve them of what they've done.

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And that's not for me to carry that's for them to carry and figure out they can apologize. They can, you know, and I can accept an apology. It's that? It's not, it's, it's not about inability to forgive. I have the ability to forgive you. Somebody does something, I'm sorry. You know, I have the ability to forgive, but with lessons that deep for me, forgiveness is more, I don't have to carry what you've done to me. And, and you, you know, for it's forgiveness, forgive yourself for what you've done or gone through or what you've gone through.

1 (31m 25s):
Yeah. I guess it goes both ways because there's sometimes when I've gone through things that I wish I would have done something different. And so I think, well, should I forgive myself? A part of it is I had, for me, I, I went through those steps to learn something the next time I may do it differently, but we feel like we have to forgive ourselves for not doing it right the first time. And there is no right or wrong, there's just experiences. Yeah. And I think it really helps people when they realize that they truly don't have to go to those places where they've been sexually abused or really hurt, or whatever, the stories that you have experiences that you have to forgive that person. Because again, this is Dharma, right?

1 (32m 6s):
You're changing lessons. And again, that teacher can also not always follow. That will always be that teacher for you, kind of the agreement. But, and I always think about how tough you are and how strong you are. And for me, sometimes I don't like hearing that word. Like, I just want it to be easy. I don't want to have to strong. Stone's a loaded word, too, very much of a loaded word. And part of it is that if you bring people together with you, that will help you through it and not judge you is what really helps you support you. And we've been so supportive. And for years, Dana would not tell her story. And there's some really much, of course this is a three minute discussion and this is really deep, but she would never tell anyone her story.

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And now, now I don't force her, but I ask her to share with all of our classes anymore. And it really helped, I think a lot of people, so only reason to share it. Otherwise there's no reason to dig up all that stuff. But I think really telling, like you told your story in, in the first episode, your first podcast, and I think it's important for people to know who you are, you know, and, and at some point when we're going to continue sharing. Yeah. I mean, at some point when, when it's appropriate for me to share more of my story, I will, for sure. But, and our intention is really to let you know that you're not alone and not to be embarrassed to what's happened, you know, in your life that maybe you made a bad choice or that there's shade because there's a lot of shame and shame.

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I think that's the biggest thing. That's why I did not share because I was shameful. Not only that, that, that, it's not for me to be shameful for that situation. I understand that. But there were so many things that happened that made me feel shame. Right. Which I think happens in sexual abuse in which we determined later that some of the things that happened were so inappropriate. Right. And so sexually, it was like, Oh yeah, now I get it. But Ryan asked Dana, was there any sexual abuse originally? She said, no. And then as she kept telling me the story, I'm like, well, that is sexual abuse, you know, but it was done.

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I didn't realize it. Right. And that's what happens when you start looking at your experiences in life that you start, you know, taking that layers of that onion and you realize, wow, there's more to it. But sometimes we like to bury it. You know, it's easier to say I'm through that. I'm not there anymore. And I don't want to go back to that situation. You don't want you to have to go back to it and relive it. But what I always like to do is say, let's use that as what you have done in your life and what, what direction did you go and what choices did you make and what happened and lessons did you learn? And it's always about the lessons and they can be very small and they can be, you know, huge, but all parts of those are those little moments in life where we're being taught with opportunities.

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So I'm proud of you. I would say that my contracts are. Yeah. I just, but what it helps me with is I think managing those experiences better, it helps people with PTSD. It helps people go, okay, I'm not a bad person, or I didn't do it wrong. And it really gives people, other insights and tools to kind of move forward and not have the fear of what if it happens again, right. Or, you know, is this my destiny to always, you know, struggle instead, it, it morphs into, Oh, okay, now I get this. And now I can make decisions without all this fear base, which is what we've had.

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We've had bad experiences. It's, fear-based moving forward. We don't trust her intuition. And so our intuition is always put aside and the more you get that clarity and the more that you, you know, kind of line all this up or align to that, your intuition really sores because you understand what the fear is from. So the only reason to learn soul contracts and really pick this apart is to inspire your intuition and really trust your guts. So that's why my take on it is that's why you learn this kind of thing is really, this is like step one, to opening up your intuition and to opening up as you teach, and then trusting, because the biggest thing through past experiences is that we didn't trust somebody or we didn't trust ourselves, or we have this aha moment and then went back to fear.

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So learning it, your radar becomes very much an alignment with why you're here. And it doesn't mean that it's always a hundred percent. You don't get the lottery numbers, but you move forward with more competence. You move forward, understanding that when these challenges come up or the positive comes up about how to respond to them. And that's, that's really, one of the reasons is you're into it. Like you said, your intuition, well, I guess that should be the sole enchilada soul contract is for your intuition is, is understanding. So contracts is really to help you understand your intuition and trust your gut.

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And that's really the only reason to understanding going back to when you came into this planet, your intuition was very open and very right on experiences changed that. Well, thanks for sharing today. Great. Thank you for joining us for this episode of spirited. Straight talk. If you enjoyed the show, make sure you subscribe so that you get notified of new shows. We'd also love it. If you'd leave us a review and let's connect, visit Deb shepherd.com for more insights support workshops, and to book a session with Deb, plus enter to get a free reading with Deb.

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