10 Ways To Manage Energy When You Are Highly Sensitive - Deb Sheppard

10 Ways To Manage Energy When You Are Highly Sensitive

Jun-01-21

Being a highly sensitive person is a powerful gift. But, it can also come with many challenges. When you don't know how to manage your energy, it's easy to get bogged down with overwhelm and physical and emotional stress. In this episode, Deb shares key insights that will help you tune into your sensitivity and manage your energy - so you can thrive.

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Deb (6s):
Yes, Welcome to spirited straight talk the ultimate podcast for anyone who is ready to live a life with intention and help from spirit. I am your host, Deb shepherd, spiritual teacher, medium and author helping you open up to the whole enchilada or like, we like to say the soul enchilada so you can truly make your soul rise. So let's go! Yes. Welcome once again to Spirited Straight Talk. I'm here with my BFF.

Dana (41s):
Hi! Hola

Deb (44s):
so today's topic, I love this topic, but obviously I love all these topics. Its signs you or sensitive person, which I also believe it, it means that you are intuitive or psychic. And a lot of people that are highly sensitive, we're going to get some of those subscriptions feel overwhelmed many of the time, but it really does. It is a positive thing where people think it's to be ashamed of. And I really want to help people understand that. And how would you be able to manage it or support someone that is going through this? So if you feel overwhelmed in a large crowd, you know me, Dana you're there.

Dana (1m 19s):
Yeah.

Deb (1m 20s):
You know, protecting,

Dana (1m 21s):
yes.

Deb (1m 22s):
I'm overwhelmed

Dana (1m 24s):
I'm the wall. Like when we Go to a restaurant you have, do you have to sit in a certain place with your back against the wall to make sure you could manage the energy for example,

Deb (1m 35s):
So alot of it feels like we have ADD, I haven't been diagnosed that, but you have definitely seen me be a little bit scattered.

Dana (1m 41s):
Well, yeah, because you're tuned into one person and all the sudden you're onto the next energy. And so yes. Sometimes you get pulled in lots of different directions. Yeah.

Deb (1m 51s):
I love to teach, but when I'm a student, I have a difficult time. And when I'm in a situation where I'm listening to somebody else, I definitely have to have

Dana (1m 60s):
crayons

Deb (2m 2s):
Coloring book. I'm not really one of those good people that sit in a Crowd or classroom

Dana (2m 7s):
And it shouldn't be very active in order to keep your attention.

Deb (2m 10s):
So if you Are you going to school or in situations, I know that its very much like, oh I am. And what you said, restaurants also, I feel pain of others in which is very much how a sensitive person will feel their an empath. And they can feel when someone's in pain or an animal's been hurt. There's like a, a heaviness on your chest. When there's loud noises such as music, busy roads, crowded airports, airports, different spaces. I know when we were on our cruise, I think there was like 24 elevators. And when they, they were always packed and it was a little overwhelming to even being there to go through different floors. And so that's part of a sensitive or intuitive person. So if you have any of these types of emotions, that's to recognize it, this podcast is really great for you.

Deb (2m 56s):
I know throughout my life, I had headaches, stomach aches. You know, you can't sleep you or just sensitive to smells allergies. You, you have too much energy or not enough. So all of these things are, can be overwhelming for a person that is truly sensitive.

Dana (3m 11s):
Crowds. I think crowds is a big one. You do better in crowds than I do for some reason, walking through a crowd. I remember when we did the Boulder Boulder six mile race, not re I mean, it is a race too, but we do. We, we walked it. Yeah. So going through that crowd was intense.

Deb (3m 31s):
Almost, you couldn't find your way out of it and you were having trouble breathing to get there. And that's also not only are you sensitive at some of the traumas that you had in your life? Well, you know, add to those emotions when you feel like you don't have that kind of control.

Dana (3m 47s):
So when you're sitting in a restaurant and you're surrounded by people, do you almost always pick up on emotions? And if somebody is in pain, I know you close yourself off to a lot. Yes.

Deb (4m 2s):
But if you see people arguing or someone not being kind to a child, or you can tell if people are not getting along, it gets me going a little bit. There were people being rude, things like that. And especially through this pandemic, I spent a lot of intensity with relationships, you know, when you're out and about. And I think that adds to it and I'm, you know, the very beginning I didn't go out at all for several reasons, but it was yes,

Dana (4m 26s):
Good energy brake for you and one sense. But also I was just thinking about when the, the Boulder king super's shooting happened. Correct. And that day you woke up with this impending doom feeling that morning

Deb (4m 44s):
And then around two o'clock I just said, oh, nothing bad happens. And within a few minutes we heard about the Boulder shooting. And for those that are not in Colorado, Boulder is about 45 minutes north of that.

Dana (4m 55s):
Okay. But you felt a heaviness in your chest. So I know when you talk about sensitive souls, that can sometimes be an indication then.

Deb (5m 4s):
Yes. Yeah. It was really emotional. I didn't want to get out of bed. And Dana is, you know, again, cheering me on, let's just go for some areas and you, as you just get it out because it's not going to help just to sit there. And many times this is we're going to talk about being outdoors in nature. And just getting away from a situation can be very helpful. But yeah, you're a body. You don't know why you're feeling so sad. You're feeling overwhelmed. And most of the times with all of this stuff and the shootings we have had this one here, it was so close and we have friends in people that live up there and go to school there. So I'm sure I was more in tuned with that area versus some of the other places that we have. So I don't have that all the time. And what I share with people is when I was growing up, I was teased because I was sensitive.

Deb (5m 45s):
I'd cry. It was very emotional child. And I would be teased for that. Yes.

Dana (5m 50s):
And we were talking about this the other day to, your brother who's eight years younger than you. So you were like 18 or something and he was 10 and, and he would make you cry all the time. Heknew all your buttons to push

Deb (6m 6s):
If you, so have you liked that, that know how to push your buttons and become emotional. And he was just Being the brother

Dana (6m 11s):
But you were really sensitive,

Deb (6m 14s):
But the at school I'd be, you know, I was teased and now I look back at this and realize that's what I get paid to do. Now. I'm so sensitive that I use all my senses to be able to do what I do. And if I wasn't that way, it'd be more challenging. So if you're going through life and you're feeling as if I'm just, I just can't deal with it. And this is overwhelming, it's really learning how to manage that because you don't want to turn it off. You want to be able to manage it. And now I can much more, but there is still times we were watching a TV show last night, or yeah. And so I'm like crying or are you okay? And that doesn't mean that you cry it a movie that you're always a very sensitive how the sensitive person, but those are some of the things that can be triggers for us

Dana (6m 59s):
and getting headaches.

Deb (7m 1s):
We said, this is a few minutes to go. Yeah. But the headaches and couldn't sleep.

Dana (7m 5s):
Yes. But I was just going to say, you used to have migraines.

Deb (7m 9s):
Yeah. I had migraines and they couldn't figure out why. And so when I started learning to do this work, I've not really had any headaches.

Dana (7m 18s):
So it was almost like you're wired. Yeah. Your brain kind of changed when you allowed it.

Deb (7m 25s):
So I always tell people that energy coming through your body, just like electricity, that electricity is and ground, and it will catch on fire. So that's what I equated to is we are you shooting all this energy through, but it doesn't have anywhere to go. So the grounding and being present and all those things can help.

Dana (7m 42s):
So it would stop at your third eye

Deb (7m 45s):
And have headaches. Well, now I only have headaches that I drink too much, but that's it. And so that's another thing that

Dana (7m 50s):
that's another topic

Deb (7m 51s):
and you know, you and I will, will go through Home Depot and will go buy the fertilizer and all that stuff. And I just can't even go down that Aisle. Yes I am.

Dana (7m 59s):
If you start choking, basically. Yes. So

Deb (8m 1s):
That high sensitivity to things can really effect how you deal with a life. What I, when I work with usually high school kids, sometimes their cutters are suicidal, very depressed. What I teach them, his how to understand energy 'cause these are highly sensitive kids. And that's why being in a classroom with 30 kids or being teased or anything like that, they're going to react to it. And they don't know how to release some of that energy. And that's really the key is showing them how that sensitivity can really be used in a better way in life. And

Dana (8m 39s):
That it's okay to be that sensitive and how to channel it.

Deb (8m 42s):
Basically, you are Not weird. There is nothing wrong with you. You are normal, you just use different senses. And they're just on high alert most of the time. And its helping people understand that. So what happens is people try to numb it or do things to take away that sensitivity. And instead of realizing that they can manage it in a much more possible way. So don't shut it down. We have 10 ways to be able to help you. And the biggest thing too is if you have someone in your life that is this way, please don't tell them to get over it. Please don't tell them they're overreacting or overly sensitive because that is how they're wired. And it's understanding it more so that you can be the person to go to, that they can have as an advocate for them.

Dana (9m 26s):
Right.

Deb (9m 26s):
So, and you were an advocate for me all the time.

Dana (9m 29s):
Yes, Yes. Yes. And just like you are for me, but yes, absolutely. That's correct. I think it's yeah. I think it's what I've learned from working with you is that there are certain times that I can approach you about certain things.

Deb (9m 44s):
That's true.

Dana (9m 45s):
It's true. Because you know, if you've just gone, if you've just done or three readings, three medium readings, you're floating somewhere in between the veil and earth, you know? So it it's like I have to wait until you're in the right space before I can start talking to you about something.

Deb (10m 7s):
It was almost, I can't process very well, but it, that way, cause she's saying something that it's almost like she's speaking another language And that's how it feels like you can hear it, parts of it. And I know what she's saying, but if it doesn't add up or for me to go, let me go back and think about this. And even sometimes you need to remind myself that I can't do that. Like I don't drive a car after I've been doing that because I don't feel like I'm completely on my body. Yes. Yeah.

Dana (10m 34s):
So in other words, if you are attached to a highly sensitive person like deb, we're like who she's talking about, support them without telling them to shut it off. Yeah. Or, or that they're too sensitive and so get

Deb (10m 48s):
Over it and those kinds of things, but we have some tips. Yeah. And the first one is let others know how important it is to be around their energy around you. So like Dana just said, when I come out of the three hours of readings, I'm not in a place to make some big decisions or talk about serious things. So I do the same for them. Like, are you in a good place? You know, what was your day light? Can you talk about this? And it's not a rejection of the person coming to them. It's really letting them figure out how they can communicate clearly to you. So they've had a stressful day at school or they just, you know, we were driving and horrible traffic or had a bad day, let them be for a little bit and make your time.

Deb (11m 28s):
Unless of course, if it's a major emergency, but most times things can usually wait. So that's number one, number two, calm time and so important. And you knew how much we love our downtime. We have a great deck when the weather's good and being just with ourselves where we're not with a lot of people and not answering phones. So finding things that will bring you joy and, and your, the one that loves gardening, how many Dana and her garden, sometimes they don't know where she is for hours, but

Dana (11m 55s):
For me, it's an active meditation. I get my hands in the dirt. I'm actively doing something. And at the same time, I'm, I'm in meditation. So things are coming to me the entire time. Swimming is another big one. Yes. Running is another one

Deb (12m 13s):
not for me. Walking quietly among the trees,

Dana (12m 19s):
walking Though, too. So yeah, those are great types of meditation as well.

Deb (12m 23s):
That's creative to get your mind away from the issues or stressed that you had during the day? And as we all know, stress can really add to so many of our health issues. And if you're a sensitive person, it's harder for us to release a lot of the things that when we were, since that someone says something or we get a bill or we have a call that is really difficult. And of course what's our very favorite or

Dana (12m 48s):
very favorite hanging out with

Deb (12m 50s):
Fur Babies. Yes.

Dana (12m 52s):
Yeah. Will animals help you release energy, right? And, and they help you they're they they've proven that they are able to help you energetically.

Deb (13m 5s):
And this is why we have people that have PTSD dog, seizure response dogs that are really there for mental health, but cats, I don't care. What kind of animal you have, birds, fish, whatever animal that brings you that joy.

Dana (13m 17s):
What are The ones that I want my future animals, That they are little dwarf, goats, horses, baby horses, miniature Highland cows. Yeah. Those are our future. Our future petting zoo.

Deb (13m 35s):
I will never see Dana between taking care of that. You knew that the garden's and the, the animals. No, but you really know that these are things that are amongst us. Even if you just go to the zoo or anywhere that's going to have you calmed down and you know, walking your dogs, I think, or a great way to calm your body down and find that center again. Brain, this is a big one. This is the ones I think that most people don't think about doing. And we talked about this a lot before we go to the situation. So if I'm going to go and a large crowd of people that I'm going to do, readings four or an event where there are a variety of people or there's someone you're going to meet, that's in a stressful situation.

Deb (14m 16s):
Or they're always that person that takes so much energy is preparing yourself before you go, just mentally saying, I'm going to keep my energy. I'm not going to take there's. If you need to walk away from the situation and go use the restroom, wash your hands, walk out doors and you know, or anything you can to help shift the feelings that you're getting, because what will happen. And this will just be taken away. And then you'll get back in your vehicle, feeling angry about what happened. And I know I've done that several times and I have to remind myself, what am I going to do differently? Or how can I shift this energy? And we all know that there's people out there that

Dana (14m 54s):
just get under your skin

Deb (14m 57s):
And they vacuum, everything out and sent you the vampires So yeah. So you just really want to make sure that so that you have, you know, something to drink this refreshing if you're eating and having some healthy food. Yes.

Dana (15m 9s):
So just try it because that can be grounding two. So we talk about root vegetables. Helping you energetically to, well, to I guess to center yourself

Deb (15m 21s):
Yeah. And it's that process that your body begins to shift a little bit when you have to drink or eat. So it allows you to do something with your energy

Dana (15m 29s):
And you always tell people if they don't want to cry to drink water, although it, when people come to your events that you know that their healing, so there is, there is crying there, but, but you always do say, you gotta do both have the same time, you know, for some reason. And that clinically you can.

Deb (15m 47s):
And I learned That for my friend, Rashe, you and I first started in the morning. Yes. This is the one that says you cannot cry and drink or drink water. Even though I have one person Julie, that says it doesn't work for her, It usually works for most of it's for, this is one of my favorite thing. So Because of all the time, and I would say is my favorite, but this is, and I learned that from my mother who we just saw in California is laughter. Laughter is the number one energy that I believe can transform how you're energy feels and for raising your vibration. Because when you are laughing, even I tell people the laugh when they're in grief, grieving somebody. So if you had a loved one that you've lost, whether it's your fur baby or someone you care about deeply, we don't believe that we can laugh during this situation.

Deb (16m 35s):
That is the best way to heal and, and really connect with your loved ones. And again, raised that vibration and we all have different types of humor and we play games that or disgustingly humorous. Yes. Yeah. The cards against humanity is one of them play with her adult kids. Yes. And part of that is just bringing people together. And there is a common thread when everyone's laughing. Yes.

Dana (16m 56s):
So, and you say even pulling comedian up on YouTube is even if you don't want to laugh, just think if you have some go-to that, that you find funny, look it up and, and, and just watch it. And hopefully that'll help raise your vibration. Yes. Energy. Yeah.

Deb (17m 15s):
And the one thing to remember, if you think about some of that always makes you laugh, how do you feel when you leave them? When you depart to go home your cheeks or hurting your stomach hurts, then you just love being with that person. And that tells you what he were in. Laughter does for your soul. Yes. So that's an important one. Yes. We have number six. Sorry. oh Five! That's why she's here to keep me in line Five and make sure that you have an space is this is calming. And this is important for us is to have your, the energy and your home when you come home from work. Or if you're in these days, everyone's working from home. But having a space that feels sacred to you, and it could be a deck or a patio, it could be your bedroom, anything in the world that would make you feel much better.

Deb (18m 3s):
Right. And smells are important. I know you're always putting out some essential oils. Yes. That is great. Fresh flowers and green plants are important. Even if you don't have a green thumb.

Dana (18m 14s):
I like the essential oils we do. You can do candles. Cause candles don't have the smoke. You could do incense, if you like. And since I do burn incense, occasionally to cleanse the air, cleanse our house, occasionally is several times a week.

Deb (18m 32s):
Yeah. And also the sounds and your house, if its noisy outside of all the time, you know, do you, are you booking a music? Are you playing what's in the background? All those things can create an energy vibration to how you feel. If you live alone, that's going to be easier to do, to set the intention of your home. You know, how I got into this work is studying feng shui. So that became a huge part of my life and my teaching about your space and how to create that space,

Dana (18m 60s):
The sacred space we call it, which we did a podcast about that a few podcasts ago, this sacred spaces. And so we go back and listen to that one, but yes we Do.

Deb (19m 9s):
Open windows And that is bringing fresh air. Yeah. And do you think that makes you feel really calm and that's what we're trying to go to your go-to. Yeah.

3 (19m 18s):
And also it was gonna say we changed our space

1 (19m 23s):
Often, often because of the energetically. Yes. You walked in the kitchen and Jane, it has moved things once again.

2 (19m 29s):
Yeah. So if you have to share it, I feel like just even if you move your plans

3 (19m 34s):
To a different corner, you're, you're shifting that energy. Absolutely. And morphing it.

1 (19m 42s):
I want to talk about two things. So one of them is also lighting. Okay. If you have constantly heavy drapes or blinds or you or your lights are out in your house that too bright or too bright. So it's having that lighting, lighting, what makes you feel good? What makes you feel calm? And that's really critical. So if you feel a lot of lights that or burnt out, make sure that, you know, you're replacing those and making those things good. And for parents that have children or teenagers, if there is a sensitive child and it might be hard for them to keep their room clean. And so I know that I used to get upset with my kids and the other adults or on their own. So I don't have to go there anymore, but I also realize that they would get overwhelmed and some kids just don't want to clean their rooms.

1 (20m 30s):
I know that. So if they're feeling overwhelmed and sensitive, it's working with them to find a way to keep their room as organized as possible. So it brings

3 (20m 38s):
You down to the dishes, really cluttered. So the

1 (20m 41s):
Clutter, if they had dirty dishes or if they have closed that, and it'd be laundry, even helping them change their sheets and lighten up their room. But again, I don't go to the battlefield with you, those teenagers, but try to work out a compromise, which can be really hard when it's under your roof. Yes.

3 (20m 55s):
Okay. But it will help them energy. It will because it will raise the energy and the room. Right.

1 (21m 2s):
And the other thing I remember six is being outdoors. I think, well, you can tell that the pandemic really affected people and we weren't able to really get out and do the things we used to do, but now that's changing. So if you still feel like you can't get outside as much as you would like finding or even 10 minutes a day. And one of our doctors told us to go outside before 10:00 AM and for at least 15 minutes, 15 minutes to get that sun shine, even if it's clouded, but it has that natural sunshine so that your sleep will be better.

3 (21m 38s):
Right. He said that the sunlight hits the back of your retina. It's really important for that or that sunlight for you to be in the sunlight for 15 minutes before 10:00 AM. But it also, and I feel that this it also, you, that's where you catch me outdoors every morning. I'm out tinkering with the plants around seven o'clock its so good and it feels so good. You feel like you're day is just open up. And I, I feel like that's a real important one too. So having

1 (22m 11s):
Trouble sleeping and that's a little easy one to put into your daily life. And a lot of people are out in their vehicles, but if you make the intention that you want to get that 15 minutes of light, that's going to hopefully reset your ability to sleep

3 (22m 24s):
Better and hug a tree you while you're out there because that changes your energy too. We

1 (22m 29s):
Had, so this is really great group of students right now. And I almost so Lucian, and this is the soul sisters and one of the assignments was to hug your tree. And part of it is to understand that, or you know, energy, how do you respond to it? But also also, you know, planting herbs and flowers and those kind of things can really help you feel connected to the others. And so

3 (22m 49s):
There is assignment though it was to see if they could see or feel the energy of the tree because the tree is connected to mother earth trees or alive. They actually have veins. They have, they're just, they're, they're alive. But they've also scientifically proven that when a tree gets injured, it hurts. And, and so it is all connected. And so I think understanding that and understanding that that can feed your S feed your soul too. I know people are like, oh my God, what, how did it, but it's true that energetically. Yes.

1 (23m 25s):
So one of them is this man went and hugged. I think it was 500 trees. So to raise money for save the trees kind of thing so that each of the trees had a different energy feeling. And I think that's the key is realizing that we disconnect from planet from earth. You know, we, we don't have many garden's, we don't have people or not out and, and things like that as much. So that's why you've been, and I was talking about the herbs. If you don't have a lot of space for planting, grow some herbs and your kitchen and you would just love it. And do I love you too using them and the smells, but yeah, that vibration of the tree is so important. There was a story though. So it was gonna say that that was the story that this kid school, and I'm sure that they've done it and other places too, but they had to live healthy plants and they were in two different glass containers and one tree that had to go yell out and the other plant, they had to say nice things to, well, like you said, the tree was so sensitive that the plant that was getting all of the negativity ended up dying.

1 (24m 25s):
So they turned it around and started saying positive things to this tree is planted and it came back. So it's really realizing how we're all connected to this life source. Yes.

3 (24m 37s):
Yeah. And, and that's interesting that his along the same lines have Dr. Emoto, which, but he did the best and messages and water with the water Crystal's and the same concept of negativity and positivity. But I believe he did that with plants as well and race. Yes. I think we did like different, different things to see if it was repeatable and things other than water. And it was yes.

1 (25m 5s):
And what we're talking about here, and the reason we were bringing this stuff up is our soul is energy. Yeah. You know, our body contains that soul and we are affected by other circumstances. So if someone's yelling at us, how do we feel? If someone's saying positive things, how do we feel? And so that's with all these things, when you're reconnecting with mother earth, it's healing you back, its giving you that positive energy that we forget about that's right there in front of us and most of the time is free. Yeah.

3 (25m 36s):
You know, so yeah.

1 (25m 39s):
Well we talked about this a second ago about meditation. Number seven is about meditation. And we would have, Dana is best ways as being out with her plans and gardening and really meditating that way and people laugh. But I, as a teacher of this topic, I meditate best when I'm blow, drying my hair. And just because I'm, there is no electronics around me, I'm just sitting and I'm not moving around. I turn everything off, but it's finding your type of way to be calm and center. So it may be coloring. It may be the walking or swimming, but find what works for you. It could be cooking and listening to great music or playing a musical instrument. And so

3 (26m 18s):
It could also be listening to a meditation, a guided meditation in which you do those quite often. Right. And it could also be coloring a Mandalah like you said, coloring. Yes.

1 (26m 30s):
Yeah. I think what people think of meditation is is that they have to sit in a Lotus position on the floor with their fingers, silent, silent, and for most people, number one, it's hard to get on the floor and get back up. And two it's it's truly about just being in the moment. And when I first worked with a lot of my students, I don't make it more difficult. Cause you can get frustrated, just be present, feel your energy, being present and paid attention to what you're doing. One of the students in this group talked about her doing a puzzle. And I felt that was a fabulous way to learn to meditate. And she is, I haven't done a puzzle in 15 years, but again, brought it out was focused and she goes, I did it by myself because I just wanted to really connect together and it helps her and she has it.

1 (27m 12s):
I think she had a notepad nearby and she would write down in the next day and she is getting so be creative. This is what same

3 (27m 19s):
Thing with doing my dollar. You, you have paper and you can write down what you are getting as you meditate through something like that. That yes, yes. And asking for answers. So this is

1 (27m 27s):
A big thing I find as well with everybody pretty much but mostly women. And this is number eight is there, they don't want to ask for help.

3 (27m 36s):
So if you are highly sensitive, if you don't ask for help, is that what you're saying? Well,

1 (27m 40s):
I think most of us don't want to ask for help, but when you are a really sensitive person or you do need support, and if there is a lot of high energy, lets say where you work, there is just a lot of people, maybe a lot of technology and computers and it's stressful. It's letting your person that you report to or anyone that you may need a quieter room or you may need to work at home occasionally or do you need some downtime, but as long as you can get your work done and that's an agreement, but it's letting people know that this is causing more stress for you than getting the job done. So is preparing for your job. So

3 (28m 18s):
Be an advocate for your needs.

1 (28m 20s):
And speaking of it, and this is one of the other students, beca we, we were talking about this and she says something about it. I'm not needy. I need to be an advocate for my needs. And that's really what this is about is letting people around you that love you, that this is who you are, how you're wired, how you were created and how you're born and that these things are going to help create balance. So it's not a weakness when you ask for, for

3 (28m 43s):
Help. So ask for help, ask for it. If you have an advocate, let them know. Yeah. And let them know what you need them.

1 (28m 49s):
Yeah. And number nine I think is really important. And we've sort of talked about this throughout, but it's knowing your triggers and you may want to start jotting them down. When you notice that your energy really changes. If someone has allowed voice or someone standing too close to you. I know that especially during the pandemic, if anyone was too close, it was a little bit of a

3 (29m 9s):
Stress. And for us, it still, I don't like the people close to me to begin with. But now if they are in my space and I'm like, you needed step that you need another foot in between us.

1 (29m 23s):
Can you just say it? Those things is when someone gets that close and I can hear them talking on the phone or talking to someone and I know it's not a conversation I should be hearing. We, you may think, well, they were that close to the same thing is that you maybe getting that energy from them, that you're feeling that energy. So again, write down your triggers. If it's being in a lot of traffic, if it's grocery shopping and there's, it's a crowded grocery store, try to find some time that you can go when it's not as crowded or now we can order and have it at the parking lot.

3 (29m 52s):
And that if your trigger is flying on a plane, yes, yes. And I, I manage my triggers. I mean, I know what my triggers are and I just have to manage them. Correct. I have to be aware if I'm going into a situation like into a crowd and we

1 (30m 10s):
Talk about it, right? Yes. You will, will look at each other and are you okay? Do we need to step away? And we know by looking at each other, what are the stories we were, we were swimming to during the pandemic are you still have, but this more lifted a little bit here. You had to reserve your time to go to the pool, which was great because it wasn't very crowded. Well, one the last time is that we went, we go in there and the place is packed. And we had gotten into the before and there may be seven or eight people, you know, and the pool. And we were both standing there that we really want to get this exercise it. But I was just thinking, I don't think I can do this. I can't do this. And we both looked to each other and lift because we knew going into the water would cause us more stress and anxiety, which was defeating the purpose of the exercise.

1 (30m 58s):
So don't feel bad. And if you paid for it, it's still worse walking away. Or so even if you could do something and later this was number 10 because I got this word a lot and I'm just so weird. And I'm like, you're not weird. You're just wired this way. We just come sit next to me. We are, we're the same word is you're not difficult. You're not hiding. Yes, yes. There is nothing wrong with you that we all have different things that are triggers for us. Our personalities are all different and that's why there's different careers out there, Thomas or sun. And just, he just graduated from air, traffic control and school. And everyone's like, wow, that's a tough job. I mean, seriously, they don't let you work past 50 and or 20 years. I think it's what is 20 years.

1 (31m 40s):
But he is wired to do this. Well, I would be yes. Freaking stressed out. Yeah. So yes, you will get doctors or you look at school teachers and you know, even daycare providers or animal trainers, we all have a different ability that we can manage. Well, if you are around people that are wired different than you it's okay. You're not a problem person. You are just wired in a way that works for you.

3 (32m 5s):
Yes. So you're not weird and that we are not high maintenance. You

1 (32m 9s):
May be weird for another reason, but not for it being sensitive. You might be a little woo

2 (32m 13s):
You or not weird. And so this is the big thing being advocate for your needs.

1 (32m 17s):
Yes. And I know that you have the right to feel safe and protected and have good mental health and or that you can carry on your life and a very healthy, normal way. And just realize maybe there's a lot of things you can do with being that sensitive

3 (32m 33s):
Person. Try some of these, try some of these 10 different ways to manage and let

1 (32m 40s):
Us know if you have another one or, and if

3 (32m 43s):
You are too, if, if your not highly sensitive in your judging, someone who is

2 (32m 51s):
Stopped yep. That's it. Or you're being weird or really, and a lot of

1 (32m 55s):
People I know will have family members that are like me like you. And this is what helps us stay, support it in a world that can be very chaotic for us. So thanks again for joining us too. Spirited, Straight Talk, and please join us again. Not my stay. Yes.

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