I’ve been asked 1000’s of questions about loved ones and the afterlife.  Not one question is weird, strange or has felt insignificant.  All questions are welcome and all have meaning. Most people have a desire to understand the unknown and we as humans are seekers. When we have a significant loss we have so many unanswered questions so we begin to seek the answers.  

As a medium, I’m honored to provide my perspective and experiences from my journey but it doesn’t mean it’s the only answer.  I love providing my insight to anyone who is curious.

1. Are they okay?

My answer is normally 100% YES. I have a funny line that I use “There are no taxes or dieting, so it must be heaven”  I bring humor to reading and events because it does bring the energy level up and helps people realax but with humor aside, our loved ones do not take with them the pain and struggles they endured while experiencing life on earth.

Their personalities traits will come through as you remember them, however if they were cruel or not a good person, that will have changed.  They may perhaps, apologize for their behavior while with you, but they don’t carry the anger and sadness that they experienced here on earth.

I have said over the years, being a messenger is an honor and while my clients are grieving it would be difficult if those in the afterlife were grieving as well.  For me, it would take a lot of energy to manage.  Your loved ones, whether you had a positive or negative relationship will provide me insight into your relationship, but they do not carry the hardships they had before crossing over.

Many times, I find they are having a “party” with other loved ones whom they have met on the other side.  We are missing them, but they are still with us and are finding new experiences at the same time.

Are they with me all the time?

Well, I hope not!  Like those experiencing life on earth, we are not with our loved ones, our community, or our beloved fur babies 24/7.  That would actually make us a little nuts.  We need to have our alone time and the other side knows is the same.  

Because we miss them, we have a desire to know they are around us and they certainly are.  When I’m doing a session loved one talk about odd things such as plumbing issues, recent injuries, career changes and family concerns because they want you to know they see what is going on in your life right now and they are here with you.

They also enjoy sharing about trips you have taken or are about to take, new babies and accomplishments.  Many times, they will discuss health concerns or someone in the family that has been difficult so you know they are along side you at times.

They share these things as evidence that they know and see what is happening in your family.  They are aware of your life, the ups and downs that we each live through.  Many times, they will visit me before your session, they show up early and start poking at me.  They love making themselves known especially if they had a lot of personality here on earth.

How do I know they are visiting me?

My desire is for each of my clients to connect with their loved ones on their own.  What stops this connection is our grief and the business in our lives.  

As a medium, I am a messenger and experience no grief around the loss of your loved.  I am able to center myself and open up to feeling connecting with the spirit world.  It takes a lot of energy for a loved one to connect with the earthly realm. I must raise my energy to make the connection and they lower theirs to connect with me.

This does become a little exhausting for me as a medium and channel. I am able to “turn off ” the connection when I’m not being a messenger. I too need earth time to feel grounded and be in my human suit to experience this life also.

During this pandemic because we are staying in place, many people are having more dreams and experiences with their loved ones.  Why?  We are at home, doing less and are more focused on the now. We are not as distracted with our to do lists.

Staying in the present is a form a meditation.  The experiences with loved ones are gentle most of the time, they show small indications that they are around, it’s more of a quiet awareness that you feel or hear.

How I connect with your loved ones

As a medium, the information comes through my right brain where our imagination is located.  This is why so many that do feel their loved ones, feel as if they are making it up or tell themselves that they just want it to be real. I will tell you if you randomly think of your loved one most likely it is them popping in to your “right brain” or where your imagination comes from to say hello.

This is why I must trust my intuition 100%.  I have to lose all analytical tendencies and trust the information completely. I use all my 6 senses and from that I’m able to interpret what a spirit is saying to me.  It’s not “just” a voice in my head.

I hear, see, smell, taste, feel and see things as well as using my third eye to translate a message.  Over the years, I’ve built my own vocabulary that they use to communicate with me and show me what they would like to share.  As an example, if I see a newspaper unfolded, this is my symbol for a person being well read or informed. They show me this to say they wanted to know what was going on in the world.

Sometimes, I will feel their pain of how they passed.  Many times, I will cough if they passed from lung disease, hanging or a drowning or fire.  Not always fun, but it’s their way of letting me know what happened to them.

Taste is always interesting.  If they drank scotch, vodka or beer, I can normally tell and they may share thier favorite food or what they ate before they passed.

They want to connect

These are just some of the ways a loved one can show they are with you.  They also love messing with our electrical items, such as phones, computers and light bulbs.  Several times they have turned on my TV around 2 am to say, I’m here. 

My late husband shows me two things often.  Pennies and the number 54.  He was born in 1954 and passed at the age of 54.  It’s always random and sometimes annoying because it appears constantly.  Pennies are significant because we still have his grandfather’s suitcase of old pennies.  He also collected change and would put it in a glass container although I wish he would leave dollars, but hey I can’t complain.  It is also interesting that I find these pennies in such odd places. The shower, my slipper, on the floor after walking past the same space several times.

Bottom-line- your loved ones want to connect and let you know they are okay and are with you.  Signs from your loved ones can be recognized, if you are open and centered enough to notice.

I always suggest that you bring joy into your life and remember the good times and bring humor, all of these things will help you connect with them and begin to recognize the signs.

You can see more conversation from this weeks Facebook live

Namasté

Deb Sheppard💜